Monday, March 28, 2011

Addison - the 22 Month Old

This month's entry is a special installment. Addison lost her first pet this past week, Pebbles. While I will discuss Addison's personality and growth as usual later on, first I want to share the memories of Addison and Pebbles that she may not remember herself someday.


Pebbles and Addison
Addison had two kitties, Pebbles and Colby Jack. To the world, Colby Jack is the more likeable of the two. He's younger, nicer and more active. Pebbles was crabby and slept most of the time. But there was something about Pebbles that Addison was drawn to. Perhaps it was because Pebbles was a fixture at the foot of the bed, so Addison always knew where to find her. The first time Addison noticed and pointed to a kitty, it was Pebbles. The first time she tried to say "kitty" ("Kkkhhh"), she was talking to Pebbles.
It may have been because of all this notice Addison gave to the kitties, Colby Jack would be startled and run away, while Pebbles didn't seem to care (or have the energy to care!) and would just lay there and take whatever attention and baby babbles Addison would yell at her.
In any case, Addison loved Pebbles and in the past week, she has asked about Pebbles multiple times - and we can almost see the gears turning in her head as she processes what has happened. The night Pebbles was put down, we did not know that was going to happen when we took her to the vet. So I took her on my own, and when the vet gave me the diagnosis, I called Tim so he could come with Addison and say goodbye. They were only there for 20min or so, but Addison gave Pebbles and hug and kiss and we told her to say goodbye. Of course at the time she was just repeating what we were saying, and on the way home with Tim was asking about Pebbles. Tim explained "Pebbles was sick, so we said goodbye." The rest of the car ride she said "Pebbo sick, Pebbo sick."
Over the next several days, in her own toddler way, she was figuring it out. I think it helped that Addison saw Pebbles at the vet before she was put down so we could use it as a point of reference moving forward. She has asked us several time "where Pebble go?" and we say "Pebbles was sick. You gave her a hug and kiss and we said goodbye." To which she nods and said "yea, bye bye Pebbo."

Time heals all wounds and in the near future Addison's confusion will drift away. It breaks my heart that she will most likely have no memory of Pebbles - or that she had to deal with one of life's biggest lessons, and not remember it. I can only hope that somewhere in her mind, this makes sense and she will remember Pebbles and this experience in her own toddler way - even if it's in a way she cannot place when she is older.

Addison Updates
Addison starts her day by cuddling up in our bed and watching 'Mickey Mouse Clubhouse' while I get ready for work. She's got quite the nice set-up with blankets and sitting propped up against our pillows. She requests a cup of milk shortly after waking up, and she'll slowly drink that while watching her show. Sometimes she does still come see what I'm doing and want to copy me. Her favorite things to do with me is brush her hair and teeth - and she also puts on makeup! I gave her a clean powder brush and she pretends to put powder her face. So cute!
Her favorite activity the last couple weeks has been watching the cars drive down the busy street behind our house. She'll climb up on a bench we have by the window in our bedroom and point at all the cars driving by. It's been a little bit of a learning activity too since she'll count how many cars, say what color they are, etc. Her other favorite things to see outside are squirrels, geese, ducks, planes and doggies walking!
Addison has been ready for spring weather for the past couple weeks. She's had a few meltdowns because I won't let her wear her rain coat, since it's too cold outside! Last week, I bought her rain boots, a hat and a windbreaker - she wanted to wear them all weekend long, and even put them on several times and just walked around the house like that!
Needless to say, we are all ready for the spring weather to finally arrive. It is going to be a lot of fun in our new surroundings. There is a playground down the street, and a walking path all through the subdivision that goes by a pond. Can't wait to go on nice evening family walks!

That's all for now!


4 comments:

Gramma Simon said...

Aww, very touching.........poor Pebbie, but she had a long life and even though she always looked crabby and think she was content. Maybe Addison will remember her.

Monica O'Neill said...

That is what was funniest about Pebbles. She seemed so miserable, but then you realize in her weird way she was actually happy. Like all the times Uncle Bob would play with her and she'd growl and hiss like crazy, run away - and then be back one minute later for more. Silly Pebbles!

Miss Organizized said...

Aww what a wonderful post!! I also think she'll remember in her own way. It's such a "big incident" in her brain that it could be there forever! She's VERY lucky to have such sweet parents that explain it to her. Some people would say, "Uhh she's not even two, she doesn't know what you're talking about!" Yay you guys!!

Monica O'Neill said...

Thanks, Katie! You know - Addison is such a sponge right now, we want to explain and expose her to as much as we can. She surprises us everyday with new things she all of a sudden says or understands, so we didn't want to dismiss this Pebbles event as nothing. Maybe everything we tell her and her memory will stick, maybe it won't -but it's worth a shot!